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Merry Stressmas: How to Handle the Stress of the Holidays

Merry Stressmas: How to Handle the Stress of the Holidays

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The following is republished with permission from the Masterpiece Living Mosaic. To learn more about Masterpiece Living at Presbyterian Senior Living, click here.

"Merry Stressmas!” It should come as no surprise to learn that the holiday season (November through December) is often considered the sixth most stressful life event. Of people surveyed in a national study, 65% admitted to being anxious during the holidays, and 45% would rather skip it altogether. What can we do when the “most wonderful time of the year” is anything but? Brain expert, Dr. Rob Winningham, weighs in with some valuable tips for staying calm during the busy season and preserving memories in the process.

While a small amount of stress can actually make us pay attention, motivate us to take care of things, and maybe even help us make new memories, a lot of stress can have a negative impact on memory and our health. In the short term, being too stressed about something can cause us to not pay attention to what we are supposed to be doing. For example, if someone is late for a holiday dinner and they are rushing to try to get out of the house, they may become overly stressed thinking about the repercussions of being late and might not pay attention to whether they have their wallet with them.

The act of thinking about the stressful situation leaves less mental room to think about other things, which can “dumb us down” in the short run. In the long run, there is evidence that people who are chronically stressed are more likely to develop dementia. Evidence also suggests that high levels of chronic stress can damage neurons in our brains, particularly neurons in the hippocampus, where new memories are made. Stress also increases the chance of developing depression, which in turn can impair memory performance.

What should someone do if they want to reduce their stress? First, they should get more physical exercise, which can alleviate anxiety and give a sense of wellbeing. Second, they can try to reduce the stressors. For example, if getting stuck in traffic and being late is a constant stressor for someone then that person should simply leave earlier. Here are some other ways to reduce stress:

  • Stretch
  • Download a mindfulness training app, and learn about and engage in mindfulness
  • Take a warm bath
  • Stand up and smile
  • Learn to say “no."
  • Minimize caffeine intake
  • If things are out of your control, admit that and accept it
  • Eat healthier food
  • Listen to your favorite music
  • Look at photos of family and friends
  • Organize your time
  • Make a list of things that need to be done
  • Talk to a friend
  • Take a nap
  • Read a book
  • Recognize that life is a work in progress and that not everything will be done exactly as you had hoped or planned
  • Don’t avoid doing things that need to be done as a way of reducing stress, as recent research shows that can increase stress in the long run

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Presbyterian Senior Living is a not-for-profit organization, fulfilling its charitable purpose and mission by providing high quality retirement choices, healthcare services and affordable residential living options for people 55 and older for more than 85 years. Headquartered in Dillsburg, Pennsylvania, Presbyterian Senior Living provides services to approximately 6,000 seniors in 30 locations in the mid-Atlantic region of Pennsylvania, Maryland, Ohio and Delaware.